First Time Anal Sex: What to Consider
Curious about trying anal sex for the first time? That's exciting! In this article, we provide some tips to help make your experience enjoyable and safe. We also explain how to prevent STDs during anal sex and what to consider when choosing the right condom.
Tips for Enjoyable and Safe Anal Sex
Anal sex involves the insertion of the penis into the anus. If you’re interested but have never tried it before, here are a few key points to keep in mind:
- Preparation: Before engaging in anal sex, it's a good idea to have a bowel movement and clean the anus both externally and a little internally. Be aware that there’s a chance some stool or gas might be released during the act, so it’s best not to be too concerned about this.
- Start Slowly: Begin by gently caressing the area and inserting a finger slightly into the anus. Use saliva or lubricant to make this process smooth, and give each other time to relax.
- Gradual Insertion: As your partner becomes more comfortable, gradually insert more fingers to help stretch the sphincter and distribute the lubricant. This helps prepare the anus for the entry of the penis.
- Penetration: Once you’re both ready, gently insert the tip of the penis into the anus. At first, the sphincter muscle may contract reflexively. Pause and allow the muscle to relax before continuing. If it still feels good for both of you, you can gradually go deeper and increase the speed.
- Always Use Lubricant: The anus doesn’t produce natural lubrication, so it’s essential to use plenty of lube to prevent discomfort or injury.
- Switching Between Orifices: If you switch from anal to vaginal sex, use a new condom or thoroughly wash the penis first to prevent infections caused by transferring bacteria from the anus to the vagina.
- Listen to Your Body: If it’s not working out, don’t force it. Try again another time when you both feel more relaxed. If at any point you don’t enjoy it, communicate and stop immediately.
- Aftercare: It’s common to experience some additional gas, a sensation of needing to defecate, or a slight burning feeling in the anus after anal sex. This should subside within a day. If the burning persists, it could indicate an infection.
- Hygiene Post-Anal Sex: If you’ve had anal sex without a condom, wash the penis thoroughly afterwards.
Can You Get an STD from Anal Sex?
Yes, definitely. Anal sex differs from vaginal sex due to the lack of natural lubrication and the presence of sphincter muscles, which create more friction. This increased friction can cause small tears in the sensitive skin of the anus, heightening the risk of contracting STDs or HIV.
Using a condom is highly recommended during casual encounters. Even in a steady relationship, maintaining good hygiene is crucial. Avoid switching from anal to vaginal sex without changing condoms, as this can lead to urinary tract and other infections. Condoms can help maintain hygiene and prevent infections, making them a good choice even within a committed relationship.
Characteristics of a Safe Condom for Anal Sex
When choosing a condom for anal sex, consider the following:
- CE Logo: Ensure the condom has the CE logo, which indicates it meets European safety standards. All condoms with this logo can be used for anal sex as long as enough lubricant is applied. Due to the increased friction, stronger condoms may provide added security.
- Lubrication: Always use plenty of lubricant. Choose a neutral, water-based, or silicone-based lubricant. Avoid using lubricants or condoms containing spermicidal or bactericidal agents like "Nonoxynol-9," or those with tingling or warming effects, as these can cause irritation.
- Condom Duration: Change condoms every 15 minutes during anal sex, as the risk of tearing increases with prolonged use.
- Switching Between Orifices or Partners: Change condoms when switching from anal to vaginal or oral sex, and always have several condoms and extra lube on hand.
Can Wingman Condoms Be Used for Anal Sex?
The Wingman condom can be used by anyone who wants to have oral, vaginal or anal sex in a safe way. Wingman is an ultra-thin condom and therefore not specifically made for rough and anal sex, but it can be done if you use enough lubricant.